February is the month when most people celebrate love. It could be a day full of considerate planning, excitement, seduction or surprises. When some choose to splurge on their special ones or do something so unique making the fourteenth one very memorable day.
But of course it is not a bed of roses for everybody as there are those who ache for their loved ones separated by distance or circumstance. We have those who have been heartbroken and those who enjoy their own company, for now.
I have gone through all those stages: I lost my father at a young age, moved here and lived away from my mum; my innocent heart was crushed a couple of times and momentarily enjoyed single life with my beautiful friends.
I have successfully proven that I didn’t need a man to celebrate life to the fullest. I had a well-paid job where I was recognised for all my hard work, loyal friends who have been an extended family through the years and a gorgeous son I pride myself on.
Consciously, I didn’t want to get hurt again so I tried hard to avoid relationships loving every minute of my single life. But there are nights when I lay down in bed and my heart would whisper that there is a soul mate destined for me – someone who will share my ideals, support my causes, respect my independent thinking and values and most of all, one who deserve my love, respect and admiration that I will do the same.
Love is the best feeling one could have – you feel inspired, hopeful, empowered and beautiful! When you’re in love, you believe everything is possible. Have you noticed that when you’re heart is not right, everything else isn’t? That’s how important love is. The problem is, some people fall in love with the wrong persons or love to be in-love.
I am not here to preach to people about who to love or not, I am here to share how it feels to be with the right person. Waking up to see her giving me that loving gaze complete with a priceless smile; I know my day will be great! When she holds my face with those delicate hands eager to learn more about me; when she tries to communicate with absolute excitement to share her thoughts; when she leans on me, hugs me or throws me those innocent look with a gentle message saying “I trust you with my life” – I know she deserves me.
When a woman of strength crumbles every time she cries and gets hurt; when a dignified professional compromises her appearance for someone else’s comfort; and when a independent soul like me gives up her “comfort zone” for a helpless but sweet little angel like Olivia – I know it’s unconditional love. I am in love with my daughter – and I have no resistance in putting me aside to cater to her best interest. That is love.
I guess I am here with a message that love is all around us accompanied by various shades of emotions where we need to learn how to let go, trust, prioritise and also sacrifice. I also come with a warning, according to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 “Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonour others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.”
It makes sense as if both you and your friend/partner/family generously give love (by being caring, respectful and grateful) to each other then all you see are how happy you’re making each other. But when you start thinking about just yourself then you also start drafting your expectations only brining you grief, disappointments and misunderstanding.
As Albert Einstein once said, “A person starts to live when he can live outside himself.”
You don’t have to spend a lot of money for someone to show them you love them, spending more time with them instead promises a much better reward. Remember, when it comes to love it’s not the money that counts; it’s the honey.
And so I wish to part you a romantic statement from Walt Whitman “When I give, I give myself”.
HAPPY VALENTINE’S DAY TO ALL!